I know this may sound repetitive, but I believe it is worth repeating. At least to me.
Have you ever noticed how easy it is to be offended?
Somebody says something the wrong way.
They overlook you.
They disrespect you.
They post something you don’t agree with.
They hurt your feelings.
Fill in the blank.
And before you know it, your peace is gone.
But I want to challenge you with this word today: UN‑OFF‑END‑ABLE.
To me, being un-off-end-able doesn’t mean you don’t feel things. It doesn’t mean people can say or do whatever they want and it doesn’t matter.
It means you have made a conscious decision that offense is not going to control you.
UN means I am making a decision. I am choosing before the situation even happens that I will not carry what was never meant for me to carry.
OFF means I’m turning off the reaction. I’m unplugging my ego, my pride, and my emotions from the situation long enough to choose peace instead of retaliation.
END means the cycle stops with me. The anger, the hurt, the bitterness, the gossip, the back-and-forth — it doesn’t get to keep traveling through me. With me, it hits a dead end.
And ABLE reminds me that I am capable of doing this. Keeping my peace is not weakness. It is strength.
It takes maturity to say, “I could respond, but I choose peace.”
It takes discipline to pause before reacting.
And it takes faith to trust that I don’t have to defend myself every time I feel misunderstood.
So for the next seven days, I want to challenge you: practice becoming UN‑OFF‑END‑ABLE.
When offense tries to pull you in, pause. Breathe. Pray if you need to.
Remind yourself:
I don’t have to take this in.
I don’t have to carry this.
I don’t have to pass this on.
Choose peace. Break the cycle. Protect your heart.
And watch what begins to change in your home, your relationships, your atmosphere, and inside of you.
Here are a few ways to stay UN‑OFF‑END‑ABLE: before you respond, pause and ask yourself, “Is this worth my peace?” Don’t assume the worst about people’s intentions. Sometimes people are speaking from their own hurt, stress, or misunderstanding. Give yourself time before reacting, because a delayed response is often a wiser response. Pray for the person who offended you, even if all you can say is, “Lord, help my heart.” And remember, just because something was said to you doesn’t mean it has to live in you.
Staying unoffendable also means choosing forgiveness quickly, guarding your words carefully, and refusing to let one moment of offense become a whole season of bitterness. You may not be able to control what people say or do, but you can control what you allow to take root in your heart.
This is just something I cannot get off my mind, but that is a good thing. This may not speak to you in this season, but if it does, then come along side me and try this for the next 7 days (at least): when offense comes, pause before you respond, choose peace, and refuse to carry what was meant to distract you.
Then message me with a text, on here, Facebook or Messenger and please share your testimony with me concerning what stands out to you now that you are more aware of your heart in this way, or share what has changed. Offer someone to take the challenge with you. Who knows but what your story might be exactly what encourages someone else to become UN‑OFF‑END‑ABLE too.
Selah…..
#UnoffendableChallenge #ChoosePeace #BreakTheCycle #ProtectYourPeace #FaithOverOffense
Blessings and Peace to you all,
Carole House Van Kleef
FINDING GOD IN EVERYTHING 